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Why Worry?

07/06/06 | by steveg [mail] | Categories: Buddhism, Business, personal, humor, rant

Venerable TC
Jewel Heart was fortunate enough to get Venerable Thubten Chodron to come and teach us again. This has become a regular affair over the last few years that both Venerable and us celebrate.

As usual, she seems to be talking directly to me and cuts right to the quick (compassionately, of course) and hits me on a sensitive spot, my attachment to reputation. Reputation is important in sales (or evangelizing), so tho I've have tried to keep my ego at a distance with work, I find that I'm still grasping. Recently, I have been called a traitor to friendship, a liar, and a poseur and though they are not deserved and based on misunderstanding, misinformation, and a poor perspective, they still hurt.

Paraphrased excerpts of what Ven. Thubten Chodron had to say about reputation:

Reputation is other people's thoughts and of course other people have nothing else to think about but me.

Worrying about reputation has us trying to become what we think, they think what we should be. Which is not what we are and causes dis-satifaction cuz we are being what we think they think we are.

I'm so fortunate to get to know teachers like her.


1 comment

Comment from: Kathy [Visitor]
KathyAA has a saying: Whatever other people think of me is none of my business.

I've often thought of this saying over the past couple of years. Helps stop the circular, nonproductive thinking in my head.

Take care.
07/10/06 @ 16:26